Learning to Love Better — My Training in Relational Life Therapy
Relationships are some of the most meaningful parts of our lives—and also some of the most challenging. As a couples therapist, I’ve walked with many individuals and partners through cycles of disconnection, conflict, and repair. I’m always seeking ways to deepen my capacity to help people heal and thrive in their relationships. That’s why I’m excited to share that I’m currently training in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), the powerful method developed by renowned therapist Terry Real.
RLT offers a bold, compassionate approach to couples work. It recognizes that many of our struggles in intimacy stem from deep-rooted patterns formed in our family systems, cultural norms, and early experiences. But rather than just analyzing these patterns, RLT gives us concrete tools to change them.
What I love about this model is its clarity and courage. RLT is both deeply respectful and unapologetically direct. It teaches therapists how to lovingly challenge clients—holding them accountable while also holding them in warmth and respect. It’s not about assigning blame, but about helping each person take radical responsibility for their part in the relationship and build something stronger, more intimate, and more equitable together.
This approach especially resonates with me because it aligns with my values: truthfulness with compassion, growth with grace, and the belief that change is possible when we are met with both honesty and care.
I look forward to integrating what I’m learning into my work with couples and individuals. If you’re curious about how RLT might support your relationship journey, I’d be honored to talk with you.
