While you were dating, you felt such a strong connection; you couldn’t imagine that you will end up feeling so lonely and misunderstood. Each time you try to talk, things get even worse. The schism between you grows wider, and each of you gets more defensive. You don’t feel seen or heard, and you wonder if your partner even likes you. You feel like you are walking on eggshells and becoming more anxious. It’s getting harder to get a good nights’ sleep and concentrate at work. You are committed to one another, but divorce came up during your last fight. You can’t go on like that. You never thought that living together would be this hard. Life is too short. It seems like you are not even speaking the same language, and you need a translator to get through to one another. You can’t go on like that this, things have to get better or you are done. It hurts too much.
There were relationship skills you didn’t learn growing up and finding ease in communication and showing love hasn’t come naturally. I help couples stop the cycle of pain and turn to a place of connection. I will give you the tools to communicate and to turn toward each other instead of away. You will also learn how to maintain that positive perspective about your partner, and together you will become a better team knowing how to manage conflict. You will begin to support each other’s dreams and build a secure attachment.
With over 30 years of experience and training in helping couples transform their relationship, I know which approaches are most beneficial. We will use the Gottman Method Couples Therapy to teach you how to communicate, compromise, and resolve conflict. We will work on repairing old wounds and restoring trust. I am here to help you change your relationship into one that is emotionally satisfying, making life at home and beyond one that you enjoy. I am committed to helping you through the rough patches. All you need to do is bring your motivation to change, learn, and utilize the tools that you will acquire.
If you want to avoid the path where you continue to grow apart, call me today for a free 15-minute consultation to discern if therapy with me is the right choice for you.
My specialty includes Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.